the blame game (outline for an essay) We live in a world really cool, full of reasonable people.
Day of stumbled on a blog whose author briefly said (sic) "I have hatred of fat people. Besides being incredibly, as the King would say, 'anti-aesthetic', fat people unnerve me because people are ridiculously stupid." . The post went on to say that fat people are the scourge of society that is fat just anyone, to blame the fashion industry's lame excuse that they represent and visual pollution.
I will not reproduce the address or post here because to me it is spread, and I do not like to encourage this kind of culture. But I was thinking too much about all that, and even more about people's reactions.
Do not misunderstand me: phone input not want to give a politically correct or making me miserable. ("Hey, everyone has prejudice against fat"). Certainly, we all have one side that supports these escrotices. We all have a potential that motherfucker occasionally puts out the wings, and often do not realize when they do. Humor has no ethics, is not it? Everyone has told blonde joke, dwarf, black, Jewish or Portuguese ... What if the bias rampant nor would anything more ... It would be like making fun of someone with whom you have privacy to play. Only it is not so. And then it just gets everyone in one way or another.
also will not say that this puts everyone in the same basket. I can not see the dichotomy of being "ok" or "be prejudiced." Although prejudice is by definition a bad thing, I do not think to take place on the same level as a guy who has scrotums thoughts and someone who publicly humiliates another person. The escrotice may even be the same, but pragmatically, it is not. I speak not of overall levels, but I can say that I know of prejudice - and look what I was always too moron, it took me years to see things they said about fat beats and automatically passed me by.
My personal politics - and it is personal - is that you have every right to have opinions you want. I will fight because some guy thinks I'm ugly / scrotum / anti-aesthetic because I'm fat? Waste of time. And I think everyone who has suffered some kind of prejudice "institutionalized" at some point developed a screen to be defined by the personal worth and therefore not worth fighting.
I find it offensive when someone approaches me unceremoniously on the street and says he has "a solution for me." If someone "ugly" were approached on the street by someone offering a facelift, people still laugh, but it certainly would agree it was rude. It's just not worth it, so I just ignore it. And if you tell people this, they think it is because you have trouble accepting.
Yeah. Try sticking a finger up someone's ass and then blame him for being "so sensitive")
But the moment that this view is expressed publicly and socially stands invading my space, disrespecting me or creating biases that affect me directly, no longer a question of freedom of expression. My freedom begins where their ends, but what if you have a plantation of freedom and a canteirinho I? Tricky, tricky.
fuck it is that we always have that feeling on the skin to understand what the other spends. I would believe that I defend many things on principle, but in the real ends up being more of an "empathy force majeure" for that noble beliefs.
And yet I think that empathy is all relative. I can never tell who really know what suffering is prejudiced, because it goes beyond rational understanding - is an affront to the essence of what you are. Who can empathize without the total experience real? You only relative. And look at that relative is already there rather than simply go unnoticed.
A friend of mine from high school because of an outspoken black activist told me years ago during a conversation that provoked the most was the tone of acceptance that people had only held that "you can not stop being black." Accepting the inevitable, can it? And I pulled him to revolt, just by knowing the other side of the coin.
The greatest hindrance to the attainment of respect when they're fat, it is inevitable that at some point you end up listening to the conversation "but then why do not you lose weight, and just time with this problem? ". Yeah. My education depends on yours, but why someone would need to respect me if I can just stop being the person he despises? And look I know that obesity is not something commendable. I have many feet behind the use of the term "fat pride" for it. But having a condition that needs to be changed does not give the other the right to gloat over me. Or * should not *. It is always
clear that this is not defending obesity. Especially because the subject is much more hairy and poorly addressed than it may seem: a bad combination of genetics and poor eating habits, the notion real and what is more harmful to health (weight or sedentary lifestyle, weight, or weight cycling), the obesity epidemic, rates of weight regain in bariatric patients after the first 6 years, disease related, scientific definitions of what is healthy , the various changes in BMI occurred in recent years ... Researching this for exactly 22 years and could spend hours here talking about a myriad of issues involving health only.
Nor is it to change because "the only fat leftover carrion wolf", because - and I can say this from experience and living together - this is nde a niche issue, as in any other situation involving physical attraction. Physical attraction has several variations, and they are all so shallow and like "standards" (eg, busty blonde with green eyes and waist of pestle) is something that has nothing to do with "inner beauty" with " have a nice face "with" not caring "and (unless extreme) even with fetishism (thing any quick definition of the term show), but things like things like freckles, red hair, small hands, the blue veins of men, women, women who like other women and men who like other men of dark complexion, white, yellow, black, red. Some people like to acids and fats, and do not do this out of altruism but for good old-fashioned aesthetic superficiality.
Ultimately it's not a question of being / not being fat, wanting / not wanting to be fat, like / dislike of being fat needs / no need to stop being fat - all of these issues (usually associated only health) go through a mix that involves self-esteem, building and maintaining self-image, social pressures, values, aspirations and cost-benefit ratios. Things that (taking the individual necessary information) remain a matter of an intimate nature.
The issue is about respect, diversity, prejudice and intrinsic social invisibility.
still endorsing that freedom of expression is always better than the suppression (as I believe in the necessity of being accountable for what we propagate). I think good or bad statements like the madman in question may bring the matter to the surface, which is always good. Just do not forget that seeds grow depending on terrain where they fall (no biblical connotations:). When an issue arises in the context of these contaminated by idiosyncrasies socially accepted, the result is poisonous. People are shocked, some even accept that there is a certain extremism, but they will not be genuinely shocked, because deep down they agree somewhat with that.
If you're not breaking the psychological inertia, people ponder or reflect. Fact: designers working with the proportions 5-90-5, which means that the sizes are calculated poke represented by the average 90% of the population, leaving 5% for more or less out of standard size. But only in the UK - which is almost 10% below the percentage of fat in the U.S. (whose population is composed of 30% obese), 47% women wear 16 or more (equivalent to our 44-46) and half of this dress up 18. Patterns away from morbid obesity, of course, but also heralded as far away from the 36/38 average.
And yet, when I commented once that it would be nice to have at least a percentage of clothes in larger sizes available in stores, I had to hear "well, soon you'll want to pet shops have been crippled, amputated , hydrocephalus, and Thalidomide. " The level of the example, you can see that the person in question was not exactly someone without information.
In America an ex-convict (with all the social stigma that entails) are twice as likely to get a job than an obese person with qualifications equal or superior. In 15% of cases, obesity alone is not considered grounds for recruitment. When the doctor enters the matter aspect, this figure rises to 45%, but when questioned about the reasons, more than half admitted that he would veto regardless of entrance exams because (sic) "fat people are lazier and yield less."
When are hired, they come to earn up to 17% less when they are in executive positions (up to 20% in cases of women who definitely prejudice suffer more than men).
In dealing with doctors, the situation is even worse: I recently read a study (that I could not find novmente) in which about 30% of health professionals admits prior restraints in dealing with obese people, for considering them (sic) "esteticvamente unpleasant, lazy and weak-willed." This has been proven in practice by a person close: to seek a medical examination for renewal of CH, heard from him so he opened the door, "you do not think you need to lose weight, no? You have a face so beautiful, could have a boyfriend. " "I I have a boyfriend, "she said. And the doctor," but it could have a hunk. "Of course, he never saw in life, but knew she could not have a boyfriend, and had it would surely be" the thing that gave to fix. "
The world is experiencing an obesity epidemic, but the fat remains invisible: there is nowhere outside the dark corners, out of sight, where the company pushes him not to offend visually .
Sãoe Statistica and more stats, some absurdly obvious, masked by other defects of perception. And I must have looked like a fat bitch of a repressed:). But neither is this. Obviously I have already suffered prejudice. But I always tried to control it with ideas. Other times, did not even realize (I was always distracted way), and possibly it was good: it must have protected me good disappointments.
But this is an issue that has been around me for years, for several reasons: being fat, getting along with fat, like fat women ... Probably I'm a sectarian:) But never disinherit anyone to be thin. And I certainly do not see it happening with fat mouth shut.
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